I met Joe over 41 years ago when we were both young teens. He was the only one I ever wanted, but then again, I was 14 years old. He disappeared, I moved, and searches on the web, and on other sites (I was in law enforcement) yielded no results. A home town site on F.B. got me in touch with an old friend who knew where he was. For 3 months we talked constantly on F.B. Messages of love and the here after, poems, words of encouragement, on so on until I flew out to see him. Although he was in a rehab at the time, I did not understand the severity of the disease (alcoholism). Against advice we left together. It was obvious that he wanted, 1. A women to take care of him, and 2. Access to alcohol, television, and pot. After giving him notice, I discovered he was writing another women on F.B. almost exactly the same type of messages. He tried to deny it, but I found phone records, (yes, I was paying for his phone) to the same woman. She was in love with him and wanted to “always” be with him. I will never, ever, trust a website to meet anyone again.
My wife and I have been married for 3 years now. We have had our fair share of rough patches just like every marriage.
My wife and I had played World of Warcraft for fun, made some friends and had a good time. She met this one person online through the game, and we had all become friends. My wife began to talk to him more, and I had asked her if there was anything going on between them, and she stated they are only friends. I took her word for it.
On June 23rd, she had said that she wanted to separate because she was unhappy, for a very long time. I had agreed that maybe a small separation would be good for us both, to allow us to relax and cool down a bit. I had nowhere to go, so she had allowed me to stay in our house. Every night after I came home from work, she had locked me out of the room with our son, and would become irritated every time I knocked on the door, and would take her a few minutes to open the door. I had suspected she was up to no good, but I wasn’t totally sure.
I had heard some sounds as if she were talking to someone, and I confronted her saying that I believed that something was going on between her and this guy she was friends with on the game. She looked at me in the eye, said nothing was going on and left it at that. My wife apologized many times for locking me out of the room, but never stopped. I explained to her that locking me out will not solve the problems of our marriage, she did not care otherwise.
One day we were cleaning the bathroom, and she had left her phone in there with music playing. I told her I will get her phone for her, and turn off the music. I had seen that this guy had sent her a text saying how much he is thinking of her and misses her. I confronted her about the text, told her she needed to end this, and she showed me the text saying to not talk to her like that being that she’s a married woman. A week later I had logged into our cell phone account, and had seen the call history. She would call before/after my breaks and lunches at work, call while I worked and texted her. She even called him while she locked me out. While logged in, I had seen that they were sending picture mail to one another, which the cell phone provider keeps a log of for 30 days. I had taken screenshots to prove that she was doing this. Luckily they were not lude, nonetheless though, it shouldn’t have been done.
She had stated that she would discontinue talking to this guy, however that did not matter. She had bought a plane ticket and hotel to Washington D.C. and stated she wanted to “sight see.” I knew she was going for him, but I did not have proof of it, only a feeling. I drove her to the airport, came home, logged into one of her multiple Facebook accounts and had seen everything that was posted up on Facebook about them meeting up in D.C. I was devastated to see that my accusations were confirmed. She had blocked me from Facebook so that I could not see what was being said. She publicly humiliated me infront of our friends and family.
I picked her up from the airport, and I confronted her that night, and she treated it as if it wasn’t a big deal, that this guy was making her happy. I was kicked out of the house that night because she still wanted a separation. I am torn between divorcing her, or trying to work it out on behalf of our son. I don’t want to tear apart our family, but I know it will take a long time to repair the damage that has been done. I have stated what needs to be done, and she has not budged.
My husband just opened his Facebook two day ago, I didn’t want him too but he told me that I couldn’t get mad and I let him. Before we got married I saw the way his MySpace was it was pure girls he would flirt with. I figured out his password for his Facebook and I found some York he knew from a while back, I’m scared that he might meet up with her. She’s prettier than me, and she’s his perfect match. We’ve had problems like this before that’s why I’m scared. What should I do I need advice. I’m only 18 and I’ve barely been married a year. I don’t have kids so I don’t have to worry about ruining their lives. Should I leave him before he meets up with her?