I was married for 25 years. Happily I thought. Until I found a phone number my husband was calling at all hours of the day and night. He called her mostly when I was at work, but sometimes he would call her while I was home! I found out he had hooked up with an old girlfriend on FB. He did not work, neither did she, so they had all day long while I was working. I wondered what he did all day …..I guess I know now….. I think FB is an easy way for spouses to cheat. It starts out as an innocent conversation, but many times ends up in divorce….my ex-husband is a cheater and FB made it easy for him.

Back in April of 2010 I discovered a highly inappropriate conversation between my wife and an ex-fling of hers. I took it hard even though they never met up and acted on anything. It was then I realized we should get into counseling to get to the root of the problem. What it was and is so typical was that I wasn’t giving her enough attention. I’ve been working on it and everything has improved on many levels.

Back when I made the discovery I could tell there were previous conversations but couldn’t access them. I asked her what was said and if it was worse than what I had already read. She denied it and told me I saw the worst of it. The other night I found the conversations somehow and they were 10x worse than what I previously discovered. Even though it’s been over and done with it brought me right back and I’m hurt more now than I was before. I just couldn’t believe the things she said, it was a knife straight into my heart. I know we can get past it but it’s tough and she still uses Facebook to this day. I think that maybe some rules should be set into place, I just don’t think I can go through this again.

I don’t have a Facebook account because of the dangers. I know the temptation is too great to talk to ex- girlfriends and whoever else so I’d rather avoid a situation. I’m just so shocked that she would fall victim to this. And I don’t blame Facebook, it’s the users fault. It just males it too easy for some and it’s a big problem.

To make a long story short my then boyfriend and father of our two children said that he had a Facebook account that he didn’t use because he didn’t have a computer. He works on the east coast and being able to video chat would have been wonderful. But on his recent vacation back home he picked a fight and took off. Being the suspicious one, I looked him up on Facebook and saw that he posts everyday. He has tons of pictures of himself and none of our kids or myself. I don’t think he even mentioned us once. He also had a bunch of girls that commented on his pictures. Like he wasn’t in a relationship. Like one asking him to move in with her and another asking him to buy something nice for her while he was out here in California. He won’t talk to me or answer any emails or calls or texts. What worries me the most is how our children feel. I’m appalled at how he hasn’t bothered to call since he’s g one back to work. He used to call everyday.