Facebook has ruined my life… Facebook has made me separated with my wife and above all my 5 year old kid.
Facebook being very famous, my wife also started using it as a general medium of networking. I’d no issues with that – it’s a medium to get connected with old friends, to make new friends and to build up a community that can help in social as well as professional life. However, it turned out to be a nightmare for me – soon she started using tight security on her account – she would hide her about us, friends, status, and in fact everything. This started giving me some suspicion (wives usually blame husbands for their suspicion, however, suspicion happens only when suspicious activities they take place). She would do facebook for 8 – 10 hours during weekends and would not allow me to step in the room saying its her privacy. For sure this was not healthy.
When she was engrossed in her FB, somehow I sneaked into the room and was just standing behind her. I was surprised to see that she had 10 – 12 friends and 8-10 being male friends. The biggest surprise came when she had her brother-in-law and his friends in the friends list; however, she didn’t had her sister and her female friends at all in the list. She was chatting with her brother-in-law … all the flirting happening in the chat. I just came out of the room & was waiting for her. When she came I raised this issue “why do you have your brother-in-law and his friends in your friends list and not your sister and her friends”. She said this is not an issue at all… none of your business.
With this it was quite evident that something is cooking up… soon I started paying attention to her phone calls… she would get numerous calls from her brother-in-law. I raised this issue and she started deleting all the call records as well as sms. She also deleted his phone number from my mobile. One day mid night I caught her talking to him… I objected to this and since then she started sleeping in a separate room with her mobile phone intact. Also, came to know that she meets him quite often and would hide things from me. I objected to things and she said if you can’t handle than better divorce me. She started treating me like garbage.
That man happens to be a very rich guy with very poor character and myself being a normal salary earning person. Facebook gave an easy option to both of them to fulfill their hunger… easy access with all the tight security. The biggest threat from facebook is the tight security they are offering to individuals- they are able to hide their entire profile, delete messages, updates, make a post on others profiles, mobile alerts and so on… that’s killing relationships.
Facebook gave my wife easy access to outsiders / relatives… that she would hesitate talking to in others presence. She also came to know that she can hide everything from me, she can delete everything from the account (in case I confront to look into). It was a very safe option for both of them. Soon I also came to know that person is also trying to throw his wife out of the house. My wife also started treating me like garbage and would threaten me for going to police if I initiate any physical relation with her. For no reason she would start packing up to move out for divorce. I tried to convince her a lot that atlest for the sake of our kid lets be together. But she said no way… I want to live my own life… I need all the fun in life now.
Facebook… in fact the “tight security offered by facebook” spoiled my married life, in fact separated myself with my kid.