Divorces From Social Media Sites Like Facebook on the Rise

Facebook has become one of the most popular social networking sites used by individuals all over the globe. Facebook is a great host for people who want to connect with friends, meet new people or even do business with. However, Facebook is also associated with a lot of relationship issues such as breakups and third-parties.

Statistics from illicitencounters.com and other legal studies show that divorce and Facebook are significantly correlated with increased flirting and illicit online affairs. In a study conducted by a law firm, out of 5,436 divorce cases a total of up to 1,087 cases cited that illicit affairs started with the social networking site Facebook.

The Facebook networking site offers great communication features such as instant chat capabilities and easy friend adding system. One can virtually meet new people from the site all over the world. Facebook is also an avenue for meeting Ex-boyfriends or Ex-girlfriends where passion is likely to be rekindled due to their meeting on Facebook.

People flirt on Facebook generally by going online and trying to chat with people to make friends and eventually see each other for a date. Cheating occurs on Facebook all the time as you can see how engaged and even married guys view and flirt through comments on other women’s wall or pictures. A recent study has in fact shown that 60% of surveyed individuals find Facebook photos a good evidence for divorce cases.

The cheating behavior starts with a simple poke, a simple message, wall post, like sign and even an add request. Cheating on Facebook can be simply done, based on the story of one of my friends. People constantly find each other on Facebook and chances of getting attracted to other people’s profiles significantly increase. Thus lots of men and women find suitable undercover lovers in Facebook where they can communicate behind their partner’s back.

Through codes and passwords in Facebook, both cheating parties can hide their actions from their partners. Beware when your partner suddenly stays too long at school, at work or becomes mysteriously busy without verifiable explanation. Also check out the Facebook account of your partner regularly and watch out for hidden messages that may be posted on his wall or picture comments because this might give you a clue.

35 Responses to “Divorces From Social Media Sites Like Facebook on the Rise”

  1. Psh July 2, 2010 at 2:58 pm #

    Betcha a woman wrote this article. Saying that guys are the cheaters only.

  2. :) July 15, 2010 at 11:44 am #

    Its funny cuz i didnt know my guy was cheating on me…but this girl kept liking his pics and posting innocent comments on his wall. Few wks later, i began suspecting he was cheating because of the weird way he was acting sometmes…my first guess was with that girl. When we broke up, he started dating her a wk after. LOL. Its funny how we just KNOW shit is going down. And to the guy that posted a comment b4 me…girls and guys are cheaters just the same. But, guys i can honestly say are weaker then we are when temptation comes knocking on that door.

    • JAL March 1, 2011 at 9:06 am #

      Men are weaker when it comes to temptation. I aggree

      • Jason April 12, 2011 at 4:43 am #

        Tell that to my wife.

      • Matt May 19, 2012 at 1:49 pm #

        Men are weaker to temptation? Show me the facts on that. I could counter your comment by saying that women just hide things better. You know who probably gets a good laugh? The facebook workers reading all your personal messages. Im still waiting for facebook to get hacked and expose everyone’s juicy private convo’s. Now watch the divorce rate go up.

  3. left behind July 21, 2010 at 10:40 pm #

    25 + years of marriage, 2 kids a beautiful life and home, so I thought. Come home from work and x had left his computor onto American Singles and his name was “phitter”. @ years later, an ugly divorce, lost the respect of my kids, no job, no family, starting life all over, and since his family had all the money, I was left with ZERO. Bitter? you could say that. Now he’s with one of the many bimbo’s he lied to and my hope is they will soon learn like I did.

    • me too March 4, 2011 at 6:50 pm #

      My husband also found a younger woman after 29 years of marriage. Our two beautiful 10 year-old boys are the ones who will be hurt, our divorce is taking forever. He has no values and I cannot stay with him. We had to lose our home too. I hate the way the personal computer and social networking has destroyed many families, loosened morals and how women are making themselves so available online. Bimbo’s was a nice word for them.

    • jt March 7, 2011 at 3:27 pm #

      @ left Behind
      Sorry to hear about your plight. As a suggestion. The next time you or anyone find out with clear evidence that your man or women is cheating online you should prepare yourself financially and emotional as to what may happen before confronted him or her because 9 times out of 10 the conversation and relationship will go down hill and you have to be ready. And when your a house wife you definitely have to prepare backup instead of just allowing one to leave you hanging because when a person emotionally starts cheating then they will easily disconnect themselves from you and not have you as their best interest.

      When you know someone has the gull to go behind your back with stuff then you know they are not the person you should be focusing on but you should be thinking about you, your kids if any and what you have to do to survive until you can do better so keep that in mind when ever you find evidence of someone cheating just think about what you need to do to survive through it after the rain has fallen.

  4. Finding Out The Same August 15, 2010 at 8:07 am #

    Men are on Tagged.com for “booty calls.” All of the women I have seen on that site are desperate and don’t care of a man is married or not. Sonner or later everyone gets caught. And, for the women without a conscious, when it happens to you, don’t go asking “why?” How you find them is how you lose them. If he cheated with her, he’ll cheat with you. You can bet on it 100%! But, go ahead and lie to yourself and say that will never happen to you.

  5. kelly September 30, 2010 at 10:59 pm #

    what i don’t get is WHY would ANYONE cheat when they have everything they need?????? a beautiful husband or wife, big home, loving kids or none whatever it might be isn’t love what we are all after? when we finally get it why do some of us let the go so easily? i will never understand. but my advise is a keep what u hv and if it is not enough save all the pain for the one u love and just let them go its better for the good wife to know that it was not her but u who needed something else

  6. HappenedtoMe November 20, 2010 at 11:01 pm #

    Yep, happened to me. My now X husband rekindled all sorts of Jr. high and high school romances, bought an old car he used to drive in high school and within 6 months – poof! Asked for a separation and divorce in 10 weeks. Never wanted to work it out, no counselor for us, and kept changing his FB settings so I saw less and less of him. Now he’s skyping away with a married woman from his high school and we are finished, after a fairly happy 5 year marriage.

    And to think I encouraged him getting in touch with old friends –

    How will you know? If they spend more and more time on FB, clear their screen when you walk into a room, attend not one but a few “reunions” within a couple of months – you’re screwed (well, not really, they are screwing someone else!). And refuse to talk about it. At all.

    Beware – those old romances make people feel young again, and its a very powerful emotion.

    • Stephanie December 3, 2010 at 12:47 am #

      I’m sorry to read about your situation. I fully understand, too. After 23 yrs of marriage, I filed for divorce because my soon to be ex was using Twitter to try to find someone to have an affair with. Like you, I also encouraged him to get on FB since I was finding old friends and thought it would be great for him too. He soon discovered Twitter and the rest is history. And now I am the one who has to pretend to our 2 kids that it is a mutual decision and we just couldn’t work it out when what I really want to do is tell them, esp. my 13 yr old, just what their dad has done and is still doing. He’s buying her gifts and bitches at me for taking our kids out to dinner spending $28. Jerk. God Bless you and I hope for the best for you.

      • HappenedToMe June 14, 2011 at 1:02 am #

        Stephanie,
        It’s been 6 months since I looked at this site- sorry you are in the same situation. My wasbund had his “Facebook fling” move in, across the country (she is from New Jersey, we lived in the San Francisco bay area) 6 weeks after I physically moved out– and still lied to me about the whole thing. As far as I can tell, karma has to take care of things from here on out. Cheating on a marriage, deception, betrayal all will come around.
        2 marriages were destroyed- maybe they are happier, but as the one left behind (I sought counseling, prayer, meditation, anything I could do to save my marriage), I still get enraged at the myth of unconditional love and believing in my marriage vows. Best of luck to you, and any readers in the same situation.

  7. sistersinister December 8, 2010 at 5:04 pm #

    Can I post without registering?

  8. sistersinister December 8, 2010 at 5:15 pm #

    How would you all like to hear it from the horses mouth? I am a woman and I fell head over heals for my first love..on facebook. Me and my now ex husband of 13 years were nothing other than roommates by this time. I just believed in my heart that since we were friendly and respectful in nature to each other, that I could just live without passion or chemistry. He worked round the clock and I was horribly lonely (even though he worked from home.) I had been telling him for years how unhappy I was with our situation and I know he was too, but we both just kept on co-dependently cohabitating. I started an emotional affair on line and before I could take it any further, I sat my ex down and said, “I’m having an emotional affair and I think I’m in love with this person.” We had a glass of wine, talked for hours and with days we had set out a plan to separate. It was the most liberating thing in the world not only to be honest with him, but to be honest to myself so I could move forward in my life. I’m not a spring chicken (I’m 44.) Me and my ex are BLISSFULLY happy and in love and we both ended unhappy marriages due to finding each other on facebook. We have been living together for a year now and it still feels like the first day we met. Oddly enough, me and my ex are very good friends…which ultimately is all we ever really were to each other. Facebook isn’t at fault here. It was actually the best thing that ever happened to me. My ex is now happily dating and living the single life. I still have pangs of guilt, I’m human, but the truth set me free and now I have the love of my life back and we both appreciate the sacrifices we’ve made to be this happy again. It was at the cost of hurting others, but in the end we are only human. I hope this perspecitve can give you some insight into the reality of this new divorce phenomena.

    • HANDOG March 13, 2011 at 4:35 pm #

      sistersinister,

      “at the cost of hurting others, but in the end we are only human”

      Excuse me while I PUKE! When the honeymoon is over your new love will wake up and realize he is with someone who is willing to cheat if it will make her feel happy. A marriage built on deception, lying and cheating has less than a 5% chance. That’s a FACT!

      Its like the song from Journey back in the 80′s. NA NA NA NA Na…It’s your turn girl to cry!

  9. sistersinister December 8, 2010 at 5:20 pm #

    p.s. happy people don’t cheat.

    • jt March 7, 2011 at 3:36 pm #

      “happy people don’t cheat”
      amen!
      Its almost like she was making a excuse to justify she let emotions connect with another person behind her husbands back instead of breaking it off with her husband when she knew she wasn’t happy and then later get online and pursue what ever but she did it during the marriage which still makes her a ‘loser’ like all the other cheaters out there.

      Just plan retarded and it doesn’t make your example insightful, it makes you selfish and as the say “what goes around comes around”

      If you are not happy then either tell the other person and attempt to work it out and if they don’t workout then leave and find what you really want don’t sneak that mess behind another persons back.

      • MK March 9, 2014 at 6:54 pm #

        Like really, cheating is wrong no amount of excuses can justify it. Cheaters always find an excuse to blame their partners or how lonely and they are. Find a hobby. Homebreakers

  10. david December 11, 2010 at 7:14 pm #

    Men and women cheat, no one is perfect. I’m in a 17 year marriage with 3 great kids. I am ending our relationship tonight due to my wife and her marriage to facebook. Men are played to be the bad apples always, surveys are out there all over the internet about men and women cheating. Women are most common cheaters they are just better at hiding it. Just do the research.

  11. Jeffy in Joplin December 17, 2010 at 5:08 pm #

    David, I can relate. I believe my 21 year marriage is over. My wife has been addicted to Facebook for a few years now. Come to find out she’s signed up for a slew of social networking sites and not once did she register with her married name. Just learned she’s been lying to about who she’s been in contact with. Here’s the kicker. For almost five years she has accused me of cheating with nearly a dozen women when I’ve been loyal as a coon hound. Never cheated, never strayed. Tried to talk about it half a dozen times and she manages to make the conversation about me each time. I’ve asked to see her Facebook account and she refuses. I’m moving on.

  12. unsuspecting January 10, 2011 at 9:44 am #

    Well, I just found out my husband has been talking with his ex-girlfriend for the past 7 months. He lied and told me it was his aunt. We’ve been together for 15 years and married for 3, and since the beginning of summer he’s been sitting up at night calling her, chatting on facebook, sending sexual pictures and whatnot. Now of course he’s crying and saying he’s sorry, but I don’t care. These sites are nothing but a breeding ground for this kind of activity. The best part is he didn’t even tell me he had a FB account and he was registered using his mother’s maiden name as his last name.

  13. tom January 16, 2011 at 3:24 pm #

    THis isn t even funny but makes me laugh cause I was so stupid about facebook with my wife guess I m arrogant never thought she d cheat lol so she on there and I know she s talkn to this guy but I swear the guy is ugly as sin lol anyway she leaves her facebook open woops anyway let the drama begin I m currntly in a divorce the best part my psycho wife posted she was in a relationship the day after the divorce filing put a pic up with this ugly dude. My divorce lawyer told me she s never run across a stupier human being in her entire career handling divorce then she proceeds to post non stop relationship reports for two months I have to laugh it s so unbelievable. Im dumb I m a very secure guy maybe arrogant never thought she d cheat in fact she always accused me ..to funny I never did suspect anything..I m thinking about starting a business dedicated to exposing fb cheaters I ll be a billionaire anyway they desevre eachother its priceless both know deep down they can t trust other loool best wishes

    • deb March 1, 2011 at 12:48 pm #

      OMG! I think I ve been hit by the same facebook train. I have been thinking about exposing the facebook problem and would really like to talk to you about it. It looks like you have the same plan. I am wondering if you could help me with it. Please contact me at the above email address. I hope things are going better for you.

      Deb

  14. lt March 7, 2011 at 1:17 pm #

    Well…I cant blame Facebook, but mine runs further back than Facebook, to MySpace. When MySpace was a BIG deal and Facebook was just starting out. My Ex found his “highschool” love on MySpace and “added” her to his friends. How I found out, he had left for work and left his laptop open and I just “happen” to read his messages to and from her. They were planning on being together “no matter what it took”. My husband then deployed to Iraq, during his time in Iraq, he Emailed me that he thought it was “best” we went our seperate ways, hmmm…sound familiar? that he had just told her “no matter what it took”…Long story short, when he got home he had me evicted from our home, but managed to BUY her a New home, emptied our bank account, but managed to put her on his NEW account with full acess to our money, left me a broken down vehicle, but managed to buy her a new car! I HATE with every passion, MySpace, Facebook and choose to have NO affilation with any. I have seen the devistation they take on lives and marriages! So a 8 year relationship, with 3 Military Deployments of me sitting home waiting on him, praying for him, meant NOTHING, but a one second decison to add his “HighSchool” sweetheart meant everything! Am I bitter, ABSOLUTLY!

    • jt March 7, 2011 at 3:50 pm #

      You do have the right to feel the way you do as he is a terd face.

      However, when you first obtained info about what he planned to do you should of went into mode to secure yourself a place instead of being evicted and then taking what funds you needed out of the account to secure what you needed and then let that person do what ever they wanted as they show’d their true colors when when his words stated “no matter what it too” and with securing yourself you probably will not have so much bitterness but will laughing at him as you got what you needed and he is working with what he don’t have.

      On oprah they made a statement that “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time” dont take it lightly and think about you and what you need and if it does not fit into what you need then prepare to walk away.

  15. Jeronimo April 17, 2011 at 11:09 pm #

    for whatever reason I got suspicious of my wife one day so I went through her facebook account and found some long conversations she was having with this guy from her teen days. the conversations seem pretty innocent for the most part. What caught my eyes eas that he was sending her a lot of slow songs into her inbox. In one of those songs she replied that she was really feeling that song. In another the guy was calling her baby and demanding that she call him. I decided to check my phone records and sure enough a phone number stood out like a sore thumb. There was thousands of text messages within a month period and hundreds of calls to that number. So I decided to call him and ask fof him by his name, sure enough he responded. He got real smart and told that he knew my wife 30+ years blah blAh he didnt want my wife. Ive since seen some hotter messages where she told him how great the sex had been with him and how she would like to marry him some day. She says she only said that because she knew I was I was spying on her. She loves me and wants to be with me.
    We have been married 18 years and hAve two boys 11 and 15. She is a stay at home mom. I make 110k year, so we have a comfortable lifestyle. I have a masters and she only has highschool diploma with no career opportunities of any kind. I just say that to point out that I am the wage earner.
    she says that this guy is a convicted felon with serious health problems. I really cant assert that because I dont know for certain if the fb name is his real name. What I can say is that at one point he was begging her for a measly $26.
    Anyway he lives out of state and at the time that I found all this out she was out in vegas and in his fb post he just happened to be out there at the same time.
    I cant say for certain that she wont leave me but I can say that she would seriously lose out financially.
    Im still hanging around trying to make it work because I do love her. But I have a real hard,time with everything I’ve seen. Im not worried if she leaves but I do worry that she is going to continue. She has her own cell phone service now so I dont know if she still talking with him. She tells me shes not. I appreciate any comments or feedback.

  16. Logic May 31, 2011 at 11:21 pm #

    Hey…

    This all could have been avoided. Maybe if you women PUT OUT once in a while your husband wouldn’t of needed to go elsewhere…

    Just saying.

  17. Katherina Mcclure November 2, 2011 at 11:38 pm #

    Very interesting information and facts!Best exactly what I was looking for!

  18. Michelle P February 24, 2013 at 8:14 am #

    Well I just so happened (call it woman’s intuition) to have the urge to look into my husband’s email and it is linked to his Facebook account. Lo and behold what do I see, comments from some chick that says “you are sicko perv”… Also, a sudden password change.. coincidence? I think not. Considering we’ve had issues with virus’s on past computer and an outrageous phone bill from what I believe to be unappropiate phone calls… I think Im done. Im too good to put up with this kind of crap anymore.

  19. shamil moorad March 24, 2014 at 9:49 pm #

    I’m gay and my biggest mistake was to use facebook,the people use each other for Sex,money n favors.When you can’t help them anymore they throw it in your face

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