Back in April of 2010 I discovered a highly inappropriate conversation between my wife and an ex-fling of hers. I took it hard even though they never met up and acted on anything. It was then I realized we should get into counseling to get to the root of the problem. What it was and is so typical was that I wasn’t giving her enough attention. I’ve been working on it and everything has improved on many levels.

Back when I made the discovery I could tell there were previous conversations but couldn’t access them. I asked her what was said and if it was worse than what I had already read. She denied it and told me I saw the worst of it. The other night I found the conversations somehow and they were 10x worse than what I previously discovered. Even though it’s been over and done with it brought me right back and I’m hurt more now than I was before. I just couldn’t believe the things she said, it was a knife straight into my heart. I know we can get past it but it’s tough and she still uses Facebook to this day. I think that maybe some rules should be set into place, I just don’t think I can go through this again.

I don’t have a Facebook account because of the dangers. I know the temptation is too great to talk to ex- girlfriends and whoever else so I’d rather avoid a situation. I’m just so shocked that she would fall victim to this. And I don’t blame Facebook, it’s the users fault. It just males it too easy for some and it’s a big problem.

To make a long story short my then boyfriend and father of our two children said that he had a Facebook account that he didn’t use because he didn’t have a computer. He works on the east coast and being able to video chat would have been wonderful. But on his recent vacation back home he picked a fight and took off. Being the suspicious one, I looked him up on Facebook and saw that he posts everyday. He has tons of pictures of himself and none of our kids or myself. I don’t think he even mentioned us once. He also had a bunch of girls that commented on his pictures. Like he wasn’t in a relationship. Like one asking him to move in with her and another asking him to buy something nice for her while he was out here in California. He won’t talk to me or answer any emails or calls or texts. What worries me the most is how our children feel. I’m appalled at how he hasn’t bothered to call since he’s g one back to work. He used to call everyday.

I met this guy on eharmony named Keith, I thought he was very kind and sweet. After dating for more than 3 months and him telling me that he loved me and how he never felt so alive. One day while sitting on my couch his phone kept going off, he would make some kind of excuse that it was work or his daughter. He went to the bathroom and I did check his phone, he had deleted all of the texts. I didn’t say anything but I should have known that it was a clear sign that he was dating other women. The next morning I got up for my run like I did every morning and he left his phone on the table, his phone was flashing an sure enough there was a text from Anna. I read it and confronted him which of course he lied to my face. Several weeks later I lied to him and told him that I received copies of all of his texts for the last 3 months so go ahead and lie to me some more. He confessed to all of it, and even told on himself of things I didn’t have a clue.. Ladies.. we have to get smart.. beware of guys or honestly girls that delete there texts right after they texted someone… It always leaves to a cheater.