“A lot of married people — about 80 percent in the process of a divorce – are using a social network such as Facebook to cheat,”  says a survey of divorce attorneys.

Although the divorce attorneys agreed Facebook is cited in 20 percent of all divorces, about 80 percent are using some kind of social media to make assignations or communicate with lovers, the New York Daily News reported. At least one Florida lawyer says those numbers are low and actually closer to about 90 percent.

What do you think? Is Facebook really to blame?

How do you know when you’re in love? That question may not be as easily answered as you think. As time passes for us, the way we love changes and grows. We learn new ways to be loved and to love back, we experience new feelings as we go along. And with new feelings of love comes new attachments, new relationships, new families. We incorporate these into our lives as we grow up, it’s a part of that which makes us who we are. And with the highs come the lows. New heartbreaks, new pain, new reasons to hang your head and cry. These are also a part of who we are and are just as important when it comes to defining the person we are.

There is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. The line between the two can be a bit blurry sometimes. I love my daughter, I was in love with her mother, the two are nowhere near the same thing. I love my friends but I am not in love with my friends. Just as they love me but are not in love with me. A lot of people get that one confused. So how do you know when you’re in love? Feelings of love can be very confusing.

Well I would like to be able to tell you that you’ll know it when you find it. Some do. Those are the lucky ones. The others either just don’t see it, or don’t know how to handle it when it comes to them. There are a lot of reasons for that. Some people are immature, and don’t know how to handle themselves in a real life situation because they never had to do that before. They always had someone to fall back on, usually an overbearing parent, or relative.

Some people are just born to deceive and hurt people. They like the power that hurting someone gives them over that person, so they do it repeatedly. Even they can’t really help themselves, but don’t ever tell one of them that. And some people just don’t know what real love means. Sometimes the ones that do end up tangled with the ones that don’t, and that’s the cause of most divorces in this world.

Divorce is an ugly word, but a cold reality. So everything has been said, everything has been signed, most of her things have been taken out, and the kids have already said their tearful good-byes. Now what? Well life goes on, even when you would rather it didn’t. Sometimes you cry for what you lost, other times you are glad it came to this, because you still have a chance to do something different with your life. Well now that you have that chance, you find that you are more than a little nervous about moving on. You look around and you realize that everyone you look at seems a little bit different than you remember them. You wonder how many of them have heard about your divorce, and what they think. You wonder if people will still want to talk to you, knowing your story. You feel embarrassed that you stayed in your marriage so long, when it was more than plain that it wasn’t going to work.

So how do you know you’re in love? One of the hardest things in the world to do is to sleep in that bed once it’s just you sleeping there. Even though things weren’t the greatest, you’ve gotten used to that presence by your side in the night. Now that it’s gone you might feel like you need to refill that void as soon as possible. So you look around you, and you make a quick choice, and call that love, and take it home. So the next morning, either one of of two things happened. Either you DID find true love again in the blink of an eye, in which case you can stop reading now. Or after some wild and heated passion, you find yourself lying awake and wondering how you managed to fall this far down.

Some people just falter after their divorce, bouncing around a lot but never staying long enough in one place to form any kind of ties. It’s not easy trusting in love again, after something like that. You keep looking for something to go wrong. You keep looking over your shoulder, waiting for someone to jump out and yell “Cut!” Some people have a hard time believing they won’t be hurt again.

It’s not easy to move on after you’ve given someone your heart and soul before God and had it thrown back at you. It takes something out of you to know that you just weren’t enough. No matter the circumstance you will at first find a way to blame yourself. Hopefully that won’t last long. Some things just aren’t meant to be no matter how much you rail at them. The trick is to put the past behind you and lock it away for good. Everyone has a past, some good, some bad. That doesn’t mean you can’t be a different person today, or even right this very minute. It’s not easy, some people never manage to do it.

But it is possible, as long as you believe that you are entitled to, and worthy of love again. Everyone deserves to be happy that certainly includes you. You have to take the step back from the painful time, and find a way to trust again, we all know that trust is the glue that binds love. And then all you need is the right person. There are a lot of people out there, both men and beautiful women, who have gone through the same things as you have.

They have the felt the same pain, cried the same tears, hidden the same fears as you have. If you are looking for love again, try to find someone who has been there and did that. Most people who have been through something painful are reluctant to go through it again, or to hurt someone else that way. I believe that love is out there for everyone if you look hard enough. How will you know when you’re in love? I don’t have that answer, no one does except you yourself.