Hi , I am married 39 years. My wasband went onto facebook found his old girlfriend and left.. sociopath to say the least.trashed me and my kids. I am in foreclosure, husbandless, jobless we were business together and will be homeless. ho would ever imagine my son wrote to him i am lighting a candle 4 u every day u r non existence in my life. ……..

I have been going out with current girlfriend for 5 months. I can say she is my first love, i dedicate all my time to her i dedicate everything to her. I have never treated her bad.

We have had some fights over Facebook about how it can cause problems in our relationship and we just don’t need it in our life. So i told her that I didn’t want her to have one and she should delete hers, so she did (that was in the beginning of our relationship). The only reason i didn’t want her to have her facebook was because she had around 4,000 friends and about 70% of the friends were males which would try and flirt with her. The only problem was that she has a sister which also has facebook and here and there she would get on her sisters facebook and use it and search people. I didn’t find out about this until 2 1/2 months into the relationship when I went into the Web History and saw that she was checking out her ex boyfriend profile, and I also saw that she would constantly go an check on the ex’s new girlfriends page. So i confronted her and instead of her explaining to me what she was doing on it she got angry and aggravated because i aded her privacy (which i know i did and i know its wrong in every sense). But yet she gave me something to find, right?

She made me feel guilty for doing that and i apologized for invading her privacy and that was it and we moved on. 2 months later i told her that we could open our facebook so she can get into contact with her friends/family etc. and she got very happy and so she did (she actually opened another facebook so she only added girls; which in fact made me happy). We were home alone one night and i got very curious and she had left the computer on and i again search her history and find nothing but then i go into facebook and i see a new email i have never seen so i click on it and try to ‘hack” it and i eventually did get into it, to my surprise it was a FAKE FACEBOOK profile my girlfriend had made. I started to read the messages and i see that she had messaged various people and from dates from about 2-4 months ago (if you do the math all along she has had this fake facebook profile). Some of the messages were harmless im not gonna lie, but some others were just heart breaking. She would flirt with other guys and comment on their pictures and status. And to my surprise i found out t hat she was still stalking her ex’s current girlfriend . All that bothered me but what bothered me the most that i just can’t get over was one of her status updates which reads “I am starting to think that the only true love is the first love the rest are just the ones that help you forget about your first love.” all along she has still been in love with her ex. She would always tell me that she wouldn’t think about him and i would believe her. I confronted her and asked about the fake facebook and she tells me “its mine and my sister.” I try to believe her and all but i just can’t I am currently going out with her because i love her and i can’t do anything else but believe her.

i don’t trust her but i love her.

can someone please help me with this? what should i do?

whats best for me?