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By: Facebook Cheating | Christian Media Cross

Facebook Cheating | Christian Media Cross — Wed, 24 Aug 2011 14:15:33 +0000

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By: Rev. Richard

Rev. Richard — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 12:37:42 +0000

Yes but, facebook makes it so much easier. I’m counseling several people in my church and all agreed that if some guy came up to them face to face and suggested the things proposed on FB, they would have been embarrassed, and walked away. On FB you can do these things in secret hiding behind a computer.

The bigger problem is that once in a porn/sexual FB relationship, it spikes Dopamine and Serotonin levels EXACTLY the same as (recorded on a pet scan) as Crack, shoplifting and other stimulus This dopamine/ serotonin boost from the lust AND the fear of being caught eventually lessens and you need more “FB crack” to attain the same levels. Eventually you can not get the boost you need so you elevate to either a REAL face to face affair, or start taking bigger risks like FB chatting when your spouse and kids are in the next room. How about text messaging while at dinner or driving with your spouse and kids sitting right next to you.

This is truly an addiction. In many instances that was not the original intent just as the first hit of crack or coke was not intended as becoming addicted.

Here is what I tell my patients: The very moment you are posting on FB or any other place for that matter and you feel you need to hide it from your spouse the affair has begun.

There are FB stalkers out there, stalkers disguised as an old friend but stalkers never the less.

Once addicted the FB affair takes precedence over everything, spouse is expendable, children are an afterthought, family and friends mean little. Connection with the spiritual God is gone.

I deal with this as A. A mental problem. B. A lack of spiritual connection or C. Both.

Any person here that want’s to contact me directly can feel free to know that I am bound not to reveal your name or anything you speak about. I’m also a police chaplain.

rev_richard_c@yahoo.com

BTW: I don’t charge my police buddies and the same here!

By: Rev. Richard

Rev. Richard — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 12:34:13 +0000

Gavin. correct looking in the rear view mirror constantly will only get you in a head on collision. Look to today and what today can bring in the future and leave that old baggage right where it belongs…..gone and dead.

reverenc_richard_c@yahoo.com

By: Rev. Richard

Rev. Richard — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 12:30:46 +0000

whoops, reverend_richard_c@yahoo.com

By: Rev. Richard

Rev. Richard — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 12:29:45 +0000

If you are really as you say, you need professional help before you get married. I see many of the same issues still brewing from your story and tone.

Cheating with your fiance’s brother and your best friends boyfriend are not about sex, you have a much deeper issue. Why them when you know it is more hurtful than anything else you could do. Why them when you could probably have anyone else?

This is not about “your” guilt, your guilt is actually what you secretly wanted and thought you deserve. So the question is why would you wish to degrade yourself and pull down others you love? Again FB and Sex was the machinery but not the motive.

Trust me you will never be happy and you will repeat this over and over until you get to the root of the problem.

revernd_richard_c@yahoo.com.