As many of you know, I lost my marriage years back and started this site to help other who were going through similar situations or maybe to prevent this from happening in someones life.
The site has received a lot of attention and the latest studies show that Facebook is to blame for more then 1 in 5 marriages falling apart. I’ve really decided to move on and couldn’t come to make a video or write another post on this site. I need to move on with my life and while this site has become a huge help for many I need to start a new chapter in my life.
The day I decided I had to move on, I was contacted by Craig Gross from XXXchurch.com. He was working on a similar site due to seeing so many marriages falling apart because of Facebook and reached out to me about my plans for the site. I had several offers to buy the site from a lot of people that I really could not trust that would take this further then I could. Most of these companies that wanted the site would just end up spamming the crap out of all of you.
I looked into what Craig has accomplished over the last 10 years with XXXchurch and think he and his team can do an excellent job taking this site to a whole new level. So, I am turning this site over to them and wishing you all the best in your relationships.
Here is my story below.
I, like many people, have been turned on by Facebook and it’s instant social benefit to old friends, family and acquaintances. When a situation in my life concerning Facebook arose it changed my life over night and not for the better.
You see my wife and I were forced to move out of a larger house with our son and had to move into an in-law apartment with her parents. We were very lucky they stepped up to help us out.
After living like that for about a year my wife got depressed and turned to prescription pills to”buzz out” for a while and hid the fact that she was on them from me. After she cleaned up from that things were great for a while.
About a year after that she discovered Facebook and connected with lots of friends. I thought it was good for her to talk with friends and get out of a rut I think she was in. We both weren’t very good with communicating but when I wanted to talk she insisted that nothing was ever wrong.
After friending the old boyfriend she left to start seeing me 12 years ago I guess things got heavy on Facebook chat and she would hide the fact she was talking to him on there. She would quickly close down chat when I walked in or pull up another window when I was around.
I knew something was up and I tried reassuring her that I trusted her and she didn’t have to hide who or what she was chatting about. She clearly got embarrassed when I said that and got a little defensive but again. Nothing got worked out and she continued.
I felt I couldn’t trust her and she didn’t want to talk to me about it so I started recording her chats with a keylogger. I recorded the chats she would have with him for a few weeks and read them one night.
I was pretty devastated what I read. It was beyond what I thought. Not just flirting and chatting but more like planning to run away together type stuff and some cyber sex stuff.
She had to go out early one morning and left pretty early but when she was gone I just didn’t have a good feeling about it. I checked the chat log again and found that they planned to go to a hotel for a few hours.
I sat and waited for her to return knowing what she had just done and I asked her how her day went. She said everything was fine. I asked her a few questions about what she did and where she went. Things just didn’t add up.
Later that night she went to bed and I asked her was there anything she wanted to talk about. Again nothing from her.
I couldn’t keep it in any longer so I went into the bedroom and woke her up. We talked for about an hour and she finally admitted what she did. I was very upset but not that shocked. She didn’t have much to say about it but I was already planning on getting out of there. I was fucking disgusted and mad.
After deciding to leave and while packing up some stuff she went back to bed. It made me feel like it was no big deal to her and probably a relief. Barging in the bedroom to get something I turned on the light and she was in bed pleasuring herself as I walked in. It was almost as if she didn’t even stop cause I could hear the “magic wand” toy still humming.
Could there ever be a more humiliating time in a guys life?
I left that night and haven’t been back since. Lots of phone calls and nights out to try and get her to talk but we’re still separated. She doesn’t want to talk about it and there’s no hope I guess of us talking to a psychologist about any of this so this is where I stand today.
I made this site because I’ve heard of many other stories like this from other people so I thought I would put my energy into creating a place for people to get it off their chest rather than hold it inside. I know it’s working for me so far.