I am a 42 year old male, I have been married for 16 years which I thought would be a happy expierence regretfully time proved otherwise . I married in 1998, we both being career orientated decided to enjoy life as a new couple and also concentrate on our careers , so it was decided that we would start a family 2 years after marriage.
After 2 years the career didn’t progress as anticipated but keeping to our word we decided to start a family, this proved very very hard to achieve we tried everything ,but truth be told it was not I that had the problem it was the wife who could not conceive .
It took us 5 years before my daughter was born in all honesty the thought of adoption , a surrogate mother , divorce or having a child outside my marriage never crossed my mind because I loved my wife and said we will go through this together.
Being new parents this affected our sleeping arrangements and I hit the sack in the spare room , 4 years later my son was born well my daughter got her own room and my son slept by my wife.
My wife was now a full time stay at home mum looking after the kids , I ventured into business and was blessed with success. Life was good: nice holidays , good lifestyle, we were very comfortable but I noticed that my wife was continously loud and aggresive with my daughter and on several occasions I reprimanded her about this only for it to subside for a few days then start again. This was the norm within the household as she also done the same to my son.
One Sunday we were out to lunch and her mom slipped up as we spoke about a relative who posted something on Facebook. Her mom asked my wife if she saw this post on Facebook and the wife totally denied being on Facebook. This made me curious and one day when she was in the shower I went threw her phone; I WAS SHOCKED!
She has 3 alias’s on Facebook , also a private email account and on 2 other social media sites. This made me breathe fire and when I confronted her about this she totally denied it. She then raised her voice created an argument and packed her stuff, abandoned the kids and left our home.
My daughter is almost 9 years old and has turned out to be an introvert because her mom always screamed at her, my son 5 years has never eaten solid food ever- he still lives on boxed infant cereal and baby milk formula! All of this because my wife proved to be more interested about social media sites than being a responsible mother.
I have learned that she used to chat on these sites every night up until the early hours of the morning , lack of sleep every night accompanied by being a mother made her very aggressive.
Today I look after my 2 kids and operate my business it is damn hard to do but I still say “thank you God, you blessed me with 2 wonderful healthy normal children .”
As for the wife its been sometime now since she left. She never phones to check on the kids nor made any attempt to visit them .
We live in a cruel world don’t we?