I am 30 and have been with the love of my life for almost 4 years now but recently things have started to change. See I have 4 wonderful children from a previous marriage and when my previous husband of six years in 2009 got on Facebook, he decided he could use this new app to meet girls and eventually he cheated multiple times and I believe he is up to 7 kids now. I left him and filed for divorce and that was the end of any kind of relationship between him and my family.
After all his lies and the cheating I thought I was done with men in general but then out of the blue I found this man who I had never forgot about, in the past 11 years he would pop into my head almost everyday, little things like I would be at the store and pick something up and wonder if it was still his favorite or when I was alone wondering if he was safe since we were at war and most men joined the military after 9/11. So I actively looked most everyday on all the social sites an d in Jan 2011 I found him. Turns out he was going through a divorce and had a daughter who lived with her mom in Virginia and he was back living about 2 hours from me. We eventually met and got together, my kids love him and things were going great. I even packed my kids up and tried to move cross country by his ex so he would be closer to his daughter. But a string of bad luck brought us home again.
When we got back he went back to work and things were good for a while but now he is messaging this woman from Florida that as far as I know he has never met but they exchange pics most days and there is pages of messages on his phone from her and I don’t know what to do. I consider this a form of cheating since they are sending inappropriate messages back and forth. People I talk to tell me its not cheating its no different than a guy looking at playboy. This is the second time I have found messages like this. I’m not a skinny blond with big boobs–Im a mother of 4 and I haven’t changed much since we got together. I keep thinking if I lose weight or change my appearance maybe that will work but at the same time I’m me and why should I have to change for a man who says he loves me for who I am?
Please any advice cause Facebook is killing my Marriage.